There’s some quote out there about living your life as if you’ll die tomorrow, and loving people unconditionally because tomorrow is not guaranteed.
It’s one thing to read a quote, but it’s another to actually implement it into your daily life. And while I can’t remember the exact quote verbatim, the gist of it is all I really need.
As you get older, you start to pick up on a lot of bullshit, and you start to see people’s true colors. And while it’s never a bad thing to see people for who they really are, it can hurt quite a bit. I’m not saying it’s okay to get upset because people are changing; that’s kind of what they’re supposed to do.
Sometimes, though, people aren’t who you think they are. You can spend so much time with a person and think you know them so well, but in actuality, you don’t. Something happens and you immediately see that person for who they really are, and the way you look at them won’t ever be the same.
I like to think that every person that comes into our lives is a lesson. Some people expose you to good movies, literature, or music. Some teach you patience, some teach kindness, sass, tolerance, courage, or love. It’s taken me a while to appreciate the people who have come and gone in and out of my life, but each and every one of them, in some small form, has shaped me into the person I am today.
You’ll meet all kinds of people from all walks of life who will help you, hurt you, or heal you. But it’s up to you to determine what that person will do for you. If you want to keep someone around for a while, do it. If they’re there for you, appreciative of your relationship, and a constant source of light and happiness, go for it.
But if someone no longer serves a purpose for you, don’t be afraid to cut that person out of your life. If the person they’ve turned into is no longer someone who will benefit your spirits in the long run, then their presence is no longer welcome. Recognizing this alone already teaches you what kind of people you want to be around, and what you deserve in all relationships.
If you’ve given everything you’ve got, and the other person isn’t grateful or receptive of what you’re doing for them, I don’t think you should feel bad for no longer wanting that person around. You are responsible for your own happiness, not keeping people around for the sake of having them there.
Trust me, it’s hard. It is so hard to let go of people you’ve grown close to and only have them around in memories. But it’s better to be in small, good company than surrounded by people who don’t and never will do anything for you.
So yes, I encourage you to do a little social cleanse. Not because I’m a stone cold bitch who has zero patience for shitty people, but because I want people to be happy and live their lives on their terms.
Be grateful for all the challenges people have presented to you, and be grateful for your ability to deflect any kind of negativity. This is your life, so share it with the people who will make it worthwhile.